List of Books I Read in 2013

With so many self improvement books to choose from, there are some which are truly life changing and opening a new perspective in life. In year 2013 I read more than 130 books and here are list of them, the one marked “-” on the front kf the title are the books I personally recommend for you to read. Some of them teach me to know more about myself, some of them teach me to build a positive relationship, but all of them enhance my quality of life in every possible way. Reading, I believe is necessity of life to grow and be wiser day by day.

I know that not everybody have time to read like I do, but let me get it straight that “if you want to read, you’ll find time to read. And if you don’t, you’ll find excuses”. I am a fourth year medical student and an active stock trader, yet I always found time to read. It could while waiting for class, waiting for my lunch, on my way home, before sleep, and literally everywhere and whenever I have at least five minutes break.

Self improvement:
–Unlimited Power -Anthony Robbins 90.000
–Awaken the Giant Within -Anthony Robbins 90.000
Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life -James Hollis 90.000
The Charisma Myth -Olivia Fox Cabane 90.000
The 8th Habit -Stephen R. Covey 80.000
What Next? -Michael Price 40.000
Strategi Menuju Sukses -Jim Dornan 30.000
What I Wish I Knew When I Was 20 -Tina Seelig 60.000
This is How: Surviving What You Think You Can’t -Augusten Burroughs 70.000
How Will You Measure Your Life? -Clayton M. Christensen 70.000
–How To Enjoy Your Life and Job Dale Carnegie 40.000
Life Was Never Meant to be a Struggle -Stuart Wilde 20.000
Outwitting The Devil -Napoleon Hill 40.000
–Think and Grow Rich -Napoleon Hill 60.000
–Three Feet from Gold -Sharon L. Lechter 40.000

Relationship:
Intimacy and Solitude -Stephanie Dowrick 60.000
The 3rd Alternative (ID version) -Stephen R. Covey 80.000
Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man -Steve Harvey 60.000
–The 48 Laws of Power -Robert Greene 60.000

Basic investing and financial:
–Rich Dad’s Guide to Investing -Robert T. Kiyosaki 50.000
–Retire Young Retire Rich -Robert T. Kiyosaki 50.000
How To Be Richer, Smarter, and Better Looking Than Your Parents -Zac Bissonnette 120.000
Rich Dad Poor Dad for Teens (ID version) -Robert T. Kiyosaki 20.000
Rich Kid Smart Kid (ID version) -Robert T. Kiyosaki 40.000
Cashflow Quadrant -Robert T. Kiyosaki 50.000
–The Compound Effect -Darren Hardy 80.000
The Richest Man in Babylon -George S. Clason 20.000
The Science of Getting Rich -Wallace D. Wattles 30.000
Millionaire Teacher -Andrew Hallam 80.000
–Secrets of the Millionaire Mind -T. Harv Eker 40.000

Basic business guidance and start up:
Midas Touch -Robert T. Kiyosaki 50.000
What Color Is Your Parachute? -Richard N. Bolles 100.000
Good To Great and the Social sectors -Jim collins 30.000
How to Get Rich -Felix Dennis 60.000
–Start Something That Matters -Blake Mycoskie 70.000
Built To Sell -John Warrillow 80.000

Psychology:
–Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking -Susan Cain 80.000
The Power of Habit -Charless Duhigg 60.000
–Brain Rules -John Medina 80.000
Learned Optimism -Martin E. P. Seligman 80.000
Find Out Who’s Normal and Who’s Not -David J. Lieberman 70.000
Choke -Sian Beilock 80.000
Thinking, Fast and Slow -Daniel Kahneman 60.000
Antifragile -Nassim Nicholas Taleb 60.000
–Social Intelligence -Daniel Goleman 80.000
–Get Anyone To Do Anything -David J. Lieberman 80.000
–You Can Read Anyone -David J. Lieberman 80.000
–How To Change Anybody -David J. Lieberman 80.000
–Never Be Lies To Again -David J. Lieberman 80.000
The Honest Truth About Dishonesty -Dan Ariely 40.000
Predictably Irrational -Dan Ariely 40.000
Blink: The Power of Thinking Without Thinking -Malcolm Gladwell 40.000
What The Dog Saw -Malcolm Gladwell 40.000
The Tipping Point -Malcolm Gladwell 40.000
The Psychology of Winning -Denis Waitley 40.000

Statistic and Facts:
The Price of Everything -Eduardo Porter 60.000
Why Nations Fail -Daron Acemoglu 80.000

Religion, Spiritual, Meditation:
Your Best Life Now -Joel Osteen 70.000
A New Earth -Eckhart Tolle 60.000
More Instant Self Hypnosis -Forbes Robbins Blair 100.000
The Magic -Rhonda Byrne 60.000
God’s Abundant Life (ID version) -Henry Scougal 20.000
E2 -Pam Grout 80.000
–The Power of Now -Eckhart Tolle 60.000
–Search Inside Yourself -Chade Meng Tan 40.000
Akhir Zaman Sudah Berlalu -Agustinus Sawkar Pramod Anand 20.000
The Master Key System -Charles F. Haanel 30.000
As a Man Thinketh -James Allen 30.000
Wherever You Go There You Are -Jon Kabat-Zinn 80.000
–The Four Agreements -Don Miguel Ruiz 60.000
–Man’s Searching For Meaning -Viktor E. Frankl 50.000
–The Secret -Rhonda Byrne 100.000
The Power Rhonda Byrne 100.000
The Secret to Teen Power 80.000
100 Cara Mudah Agar Diskusi Meriah (ID version) -John Buckeridge 30.000

Time management:
–Getting Things Done -David Allen 90.000
–The One Minute Manager -Ken Blanchard 40.000
–The Skinny on Time Management -Jim Randel 80.000

Novel and Biography:
Around The World in Eighty Days -Jules Verne 15.000
Dua Tangus dan Ribuan Tawa -Dahlan Iskan 20.000
Chicken Soup for the Soul: Teens Talk High School 80.000
Chicken Soup for the Soul: A Book of Miracles 80.000
The Psychopath Test -Jon Ronson 70.000
Into The Wild -Jon Krakauer 50.000
Many Lives, Many Masters -Brian Weiss 70.000
The Game -Neil Strauss 60.000
–The Diary of a Young Girl -Anne Frank 40.000
The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari -Robin S. Sharma 20.000
–What Should I Do With My Life? -Po Bronson 40.000
The Five People You Meet in Heaven -Mitch Albom 60.000
Tuesday with Morrie -Mitch Albom 60.000
For One More Day -Mitch Albom 60.000
Setengah Isi Setengah Kosong -Parlindungan Marpaung 30.000
Si Cacing dan Kotoran Kesayangannya -Ajahn Brahm 30.000
Sherlock Holmes: The Complete Novels and Stories Volume 1 40.000

Misc.:
The Mobile Wave -Michael Saylor 120.000
–Born to Blog -Mark W. Shaefer 60.000
Triple Your Reading Speed -Wade E. Cutler 40.000

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Dialogue: Love and Relationship

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When it comes to photography, dialogue can be perceived as a consensual interaction between two images.

Placed next to each other, each photograph opens up to meanings that weren’t there when viewed alone.

Each composition reveals the photographer’s specific sensitivity to certain content or visual elements.

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Dialogue: Life in a Nutshell

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When it comes to photography, dialogue can be perceived as a consensual interaction between two images.

Placed next to each other, each photograph opens up to meanings that weren’t there when viewed alone.

Each composition reveals the photographer’s specific sensitivity to certain content or visual elements.

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Living a Life Worth Living For

A person should set his goals as early as he can and devote all his energy and talent to getting there. With enough effort, he may achieve it. Or he may find something that is even more rewarding. But in the end, no matter what the outcome, he will know he has been alive. -Walt Disney
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We all have been through life’s up and down, the tears we had when our parents died, the desperation of failed business enterprise, and other emotional events happened in our past. But let’s not forget the tear of happiness when our first child were born, the thrill after giving a promotional speech, and other peak moments in our life. And that’s life, it has it’s up and down, valley and peak, and moments we couldn’t possibly reproduce again. We should feel blessed for the fact we had them, when we were in the valley we have hope that someday we will reach the peak. Once we reach the peak we learn to help people in the valley to reach the peak as we were helped in the past. But that’s not the end, is it? There’s a taller mountain to climb, a deeper sea to dived into, a larger space to be explored. What I’m saying is it doesn’t matter who we are or who we were, we all had our unique experience, a lesson we learned in the past through trial and error, and circumstances so unique that there isn’t two people in earth having the same knowledge and experience. But there are some principles which could be universally applied to all of us, that if we give it a try it might just work and improve our quality if life. After all, that is what I’m striving to give to you in this blog, a quality article researched from numerous books and experience. I hope it doesn’t stop just in reading the article, take it to the next level and apply it it to you life! Hopefully, even just by a slight, what I am sharing to you could enlightened your vision and lead you to the life you wanted.

When I was a six, my parents would ask me what I wanted to be when I growned up. The answer stays the same until I was twelve, “an astronout”, I would say. What I was thinking by being an astronout was going to uncharted places, places no other visited before, places with all it’s beauty and magnificent view. But as we all do, I grew and I realize there are expectation from the society of what I should be when I growned up. Confused with what my family expect me to do, what the society thinks about certain profession, I down-graded my dream into a pilot. I think of what a pilot do with my childish point of view, they travel to a lot of places around the world, have a lot money (at least that was what I’m thinking), and the society respects them. There were very few people around me who succeed being a pilot, so I think it was hard for me to become one as well. So the dream faded with time…

It’s not until the last year of high school that I was really thinking what I wanted to be. I know I’m not alone on this one and perhaps you did the same too, thinking of the career ladder you want to take for the rest if your life at the very last months of high school. So I tried to answer the million dollar question, “What profession is noble, paid handsomely, and allows traveling to places around the world?” I took science in high school, I am bright enough to study any course, and I was backed by a financially stable family. If you have a better answer than what I do now, please do tell me! The answer I had was based of many movies I watched, a doctor working for WHO. I mean, they travel to many third world country to improve local’s resident health, and they also attend conference around the world to discuss the solution. Best of both world, right? Respectable job, travel around the world, and I believe they had a decent salary as well. Not a year later, I applied to a private medical school in the my city and got accepted. For the record, now is my fourth year and I passed each exam smoothly, without failing even in one topic. But a bigger question emerged in my mind as I read many self improvement books (perhaps excessive, considering I read over 130 books a year and I don’t know any friends who read even 5 a year).

“Is this what I want to do for the rest of my life?”

It turned out that I’m not the only one thinking this question, lots of my friends did as well. A friend of mine in medical school, Paulus could be a great chef, Evan could memorize the details in every car he know which make him a great car collector, Aurel could be an entrepreneur, and me? I could be a travel photographer or perhaps a stock trader. It just happened that even though we are united in medical school, we actually have a passion, bigger than our passion in serving the community as a doctor. But what could we do? We have spent $20.000, three and a half years studying, not to mention the expectation of our family for us to become a doctor. Irrational as it sounds, we could drop it all and start a new path, the path we truly are passionate in, but would we? Life is not to be wasted, money we could find again, but time we will not.

I believe the same thought happened to people stuck in a job they don’t like, a marriage that doesn’t work, a relationship going nowhere but farther apart. We have spent so many of our time, money, energy, and resources so abundant that we try very hard to make it work when we know it probably won’t. And what would ideally we do next, or to be more realistic, what did we do? Not much actually, most of us are just trying to justify our past action by holding on the job, marriage, relationship we had. We tried to strive day by day, living a depressive life we don’t want to be part of, daydreaming the life we want to live in. Because deep down in our heart, we know that what we want is not to make the sitution better, but a whole new way of life. The way of life we imagined we would live in as a child, the happily ever after marriage, the perfect job we would do without getting paid, the relationship that’s going to be romantic forever. But is there such thing? Franky I don’t know, and I suppose nobody had it perfect the first time.

Behind our thinking process, we were taught when we were a child not to waste resources we had (time, pocket money, food in the plate, etc.) and we still do have the same mind set today. I still watch a bad movie in theater until finished just because I have paid for the ticket and it would be irrational to leave. What I saw was the negative effect (wasting money, time for a bad movie) and my ego doesn’t allow itself to be challenged. Have you ever think of what could happened if I leave, take a walk in the park, visit an old school friend? The evening could have been better than going home after watching a bad movie. What could happened if we leave our current job/college/marraige/relationship and working on the the new path we ideally want? Of course, there is no guarantee that our new path would be more satisfying than the one we had, but if there is fifty-fifty chance, would you? Would I?

Only time will tell…

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Fray: A Clothes Tells a Story

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Silhouette: Landscape, Portrait,and Street Photography

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Psychology: The Reason Why We Name Our Goods

Have you ever named an inanimate object? (Your car? Your laptop? The volleyball that kept you company while you were stranded in the ocean?) Share the story of at least one object with which you’re on a first-name basis.

I have, and I think most of us had a story or two in our life about our most valuable thing we emotionally attached with. For me it is Victoria, she is a beautiful lady, elegant with her shape but as strong as a steel, she went with me many times around the world from America to Africa. We surely had our time spent together happily, my hands around her most of the time and she would lie on my chest while I walked. We have watch many sunrise and sunset together, our eyes meet as one. She always reminds me of our good old time when we came home, and there are many more date in the future for us.

Indeed Victoria is my lovely Fujifilm X-Pro1 camera I acquired two years ago, since then she would be with me most of the time I traveled. The image quality it produces is outstanding, perhaps better than my ex-girlfriend Canon 5D Mark II.

So why do we gave name to the thing we love? I saw people naming their boat, watch, and other sentimental goods they had and love. It was a matter of emotion really, we have a beautiful memory with them and from those many (or perhaps only one) memories we bound an attachment with the goods, for the good brings us back the old memory we have. It’s the same with songs, certain tones, picture, etc. The good itself might be worthless, but the memory it brings are wonderful.

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Middle Seat- Keeping an Open Mind for Discussion

It turns out that your neighbor on the plane/bus/train (or the person sitting at the next table at the coffee shop) is a very, very chatty tourist. Do you try to switch seats, go for a non-committal brief small talk, or make this person your new best friend?

It depends on the person, of course. With positive minded people, there will always be something we could learn from him/her. New ideas often come from stranger outside our routine environment because people around the world have different culture, point of view, and perspecrive in life. It surprise me how differently people think about an accident, people with strong belief in God could see it as a God’s plan, liberal citizen could see it merely as an accident and develop a plan to avoid it in the future, while communist could see it as a conspiration.

Neither are wrong, it’s just a matter of point of view, really. And it always refreshen my way of thinking, listening to people’s opinion or reading a newspaper from different country. From the way people think, psychologist could learn about person past, how he grow up and molded into a person he is now. Moral for today, keep an open mind when dealing with others! You might just be the bad guy in other’s point of view.

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Can’t Watch This- Man Dragged on the Street

When was the last time you watched something so scary, cringe-worthy, or unbelievably tacky — in a movie, on TV, or in real life — you had to cover your eyes?

I was about fourteen five years ago when my family went to an automotive dealer to have our new Toyota Fortuner changed it’s window with a V-cool glass (to protect from UV and darken the color). So we went to the dealer and leave our car there for the next five hours, to avoid boredom waiting we decided to go to a mall nearby with taxi. After five hours had passed, we took another taxi ride to the dealer and on our way we saw a guy beaten up by the people surrounding and dragged on the street because he was stealing a car’s mirror glass (it could be sold for $20-500 in the black market). His face was covered with some blood and perhaps there was bruises in his body, but it was covered with his shirt.

The people surrounded him and several man took his hands and dragged him on the street, it was a memory I would never forget. When we passed the road we discussed a little and now it has been my childhood traumatic experience. Why does people do something un-humanely like that? Yes, he was stealing and it is wrong, but does he deserved such punishment given by people who don’t even loss the mirror? It was a reflection to me and perhaps what happened behind the event was the rage inside us. The negativity we accumulate inside our body, waiting for a trigger to be unleashed and that day the trigger came.

It’s horrifying to see how humanity lose control of their own action, and one person action initiate other people to do the same. And the beaten man took the consequences.

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Review Part 2: Mulia Resort Bali -The Best New Hotel 2013

The first day stay (on my part 1) was very exciting and it redefine the word “luxury” and “relaxing” in our family dictionary. The place itself is magnificent, supplied with friendly staff and delicious food tasting. On my first day, I thought won’t managed to completely touring the resort, so after having dinner on my room and taking a bath in a bathroom as big as my room in home, I decide to take a night walk with my camera and tripod. But first, here is few shots from the balcony of my room.

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It was a windy night and you could hear the sounds of the wave.

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This is Cascade Lounge I talked anout earlier, where me and my family sit for 5 hours and not get bored. It closed around 23 pm I think, and there is no way you could sit there at night and not get cold (perhaps stealing room’s blanket is a good idea :), but I didn’t do it so please don’t charged me Mulia!).

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These are shots I managed to take around the resort at night, notice that I went back to the lobby where I waited earlier in the evening, there is a building designed for wedding reception, the symmetry is outstanding.

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After completing the tour around the resort at midnight, I think it was a good idea to go back and sleep, so i could woke up early and catch the sunrise.

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I woke up alone because my mother and sister are very lazy to wake up, so put my shoes on and prepare my trusty companion, Fujifilm X-Pro with Canon TS-E 24 f/3.5L II attached. I also bring my tripod and iPod filled with songs I have prepared for the trip. I got my “high” many time while capturing pictures, with high pitched sounds I listened, harsh wind on my face and bare legs. The view was uncomparable and simply beautiful, I would definitely go back here again before I die.

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After the sunrise expedition, my mother and sister called me and waiting for me at the beach, we swim in the main pool and played around for a while.

For lunch I ate like a pig in the Cafe Restaurant (all you can eat for sure) which cost about $35 per person, they served various sashimi, local cuisine, and many international cuisine that will suit our tounge. You just can’t be bored in this place!

At night and the next morning I toured around again and took some shots, while I have taken exceptional shots the previous day, I took some more and was delighted.

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I’m glad I did this trip and I’m sure I would go back to this palce again. If I could associate this place with a phrase it would be, “If there is a Heaven on Earth, I’m afraid I’ve found it”. Those who could afford the trip, I really recommend it to you, whether you love meditation, want some break from routine, or simply having vacation, this place is rejunovating. I think a lot about my life, the past and future, make some plan when I get back to routine, and I found peace inside myself. On my morning walk, I chatted with an American who is a TV crew and travel around the world, he told me that this is the second best place he has been to, and I asked him, “what’s the first?”. He answered that the first is St. Regis in Bora-Bora, so I think it would be the next destination for another “beach trip”

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